Loaded terms in free software

If the message is "blacklist/whitelist are bad terms anyway, why don't we change them?" then there is no problem (personally I don't see why I would use blacklist/whitelist in a new software — allow/deny are better terms).

However the message from the more aggressive proponents of the change is "you are bad person for using such racial slang, shame on you!", with implicit "there will be a smear campaign against you if you don't yield to our demands" then the answer varies from "go away" to "I'm calling my lawyer".

A side note: there is a difference between "blacklist/whitelist are bad terms" and "master is a bad term" — former is true, latter is not, so if one conflates two term changes then they are sure not interested in improving terms.