After Years of Abusive E-mails, the Creator of Linux Steps Aside (The New Yorker)

The important thing about tolerance as a value that is constantly and loudly misunderstood by many is that is is a two party contract, I tolerate you as long as you tolerate me, if one person fails in that by being intolerant then they no longer earn tolerance. Without that understanding then calls for tolerance just becomes another tool for the socially powerful to dominate, where they demand tolerance for themselves and their behavior but are unwilling to extend that courtesy to others. So it isn't so much that you have a "right" to have others tolerate your behavior, its that you can earn tolerance by how well you tolerate and treat others.