Missing the AF_BUS

dbus_connection_get_unix_fd() returns exactly one file descriptor. If you open a direct connection to some application, you have more than one file descriptor. How do you make your application select()/poll() on both (or more) of these?
Admittedly, on second thought, you could do it with epoll(). But it's still a change in semantics (you can't read from that file descriptor; worse, you can't write to it).

How would you propose to handle the monitoring problem? Let the daemon send a "somebody's listening for messages X, so if you exchange any of those privately, kindly send me a copy" commands to each and every client? Owch.

I'm not saying this cannot be done. I'm saying it's heaps more work, and more fragile, than simply moving the main chunk of this into the kernel, especially since there's already code which does that. And code is more authoritative than English.