On kernel mailing list behavior [LWN.net]

On kernel mailing list behavior

Posted Jul 18, 2013 14:31 UTC (Thu) by nevets (subscriber, #11875)
In reply to: On kernel mailing list behavior by bojan
Parent article: On kernel mailing list behavior

You start off being polite, and if that doesn't work than you get nasty. Otherwise you just waste everyone's time and people end up even *more* pissed off.

That is basically how Linus does it.

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On kernel mailing list behavior

Posted Jul 18, 2013 23:55 UTC (Thu) by bojan (subscriber, #14302) [Link] (4 responses)

This is exactly how it should _not_ work. I still remember telling the general manager (and owner) of the company I worked for (in front of other people that were present in the meeting) to stop yelling at me, because he is not my father. He did stop and never tried that again.

Abuse is never OK. There is a difference between aggressive and assertive. Google it if you don't believe me.

On kernel mailing list behavior

Posted Jul 19, 2013 1:25 UTC (Fri) by nevets (subscriber, #11875) [Link] (2 responses)

IF I WRITE MY REPLY IN ALL CAPS, AM I ABUSING YOU?

Yes? No?

There's a huge difference between yelling face to face and on email. The problem with text is that it's much harder to tell the degree the person is upset with you, or disagrees with you.

When Linus disagrees with me, I take his level of emotion as a gauge of how much he disagrees with me. If he says "you shouldn't do it that way", it sounds like he doesn't like it, but he doesn't really care that much about it, and may still let me do it if I really want to. If he says "Only a f*cking idiot would do it that way", it's clear that I screwed up and need to change the way it was done. It's about communication, that's all.

On kernel mailing list behavior

Posted Jul 19, 2013 2:01 UTC (Fri) by bojan (subscriber, #14302) [Link] (1 responses)

> IF I WRITE MY REPLY IN ALL CAPS, AM I ABUSING YOU?

> Yes? No?

All I can tell is that you are shouting. Now, depending you what you are saying, it may be yes or it may be know. Compare:

WE WON THE GAME! YAY!

with

YOU STUPID MORON!

Pretty easy to figure out, really.

> If he says "Only a f*cking idiot would do it that way", it's clear that I screwed up and need to change the way it was done. It's about communication, that's all.

Well, maybe you are are a buddy of Linus and you guys have exchanges like this in private. If that is the case and you are both cool with that, that's fine.

However, if you are not buddies, this kind of exchange may be considered abuse by you. Also, there is the problem of a the list being _public_. Other people may take offence to that kind of exchange, as it may sound intimidating to them. For instance, Sarah did - which then makes it inappropriate.

On kernel mailing list behavior

Posted Jul 19, 2013 2:02 UTC (Fri) by bojan (subscriber, #14302) [Link]

> may be know.

Er, sorry. Should be "may be no", of course.

On kernel mailing list behavior

Posted Jul 19, 2013 12:23 UTC (Fri) by shmget (guest, #58347) [Link]

"This is exactly how it should _not_ work."

Nonetheless, it does.