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Thanks!

Posted Oct 1, 2007 19:44 UTC (Mon) by tuxchick (guest, #42009)
In reply to: Thanks! by sjj
Parent article: To Sir, with Love: How To Get More Women Involved in Open Source (O'ReillyNet)

Thank you, I was intending to make one more post, and you already
expressed what I wanted to say.

"respect is not a one-dimensional variable. Separate respect for each
person as him/herself (this is a right) from respect for technical prowess
(this is earned)."

Well said.

This is a hot-button topic, and it shouldn't be. What's so controversial
about advocating for politeness, courtesy, and respect? What's so
controversial about recognizing that rude, hostile behavior drives people
away from FOSS, to its detriment?

I dare say a lot of this is plain old misogynism, because of course women
are just whiny crybabies who should shut up and take it, and it seems to
be mainly women who are raising this issue publicly. "If you don't like it
here, leave" is not a solution, but a last resort. It happens way too
often in FOSS projects, to their detriment. Maintaining a reasonable level
of civility is hardly something that requires radical re-tooling; just a
bit of self-control and consideration for others.

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Thanks!

Posted Oct 1, 2007 22:25 UTC (Mon) by ewan (guest, #5533) [Link] (1 responses)

There are several reasons that this is a hot button topic, including:

- Whatever you think you're advocating, you're calling for a change in
the status quo, that's inevitably going to be looked upon sceptically by
people happy with the status quo.
- Some of us have experiences of the FOSS community that are largely
characterised by politeness, courtesy, and respect; you called
us 'delusional' and 'liars'.
- There are undoubtedly misogynists in the community, that does not mean
that the community is generally misogynistic.

In short, you're trying to change something that many people enjoy, based
on a weakly demonstrated case, and you seem unwilling to engage
meaningfully in debate. Of course you're going to feel resistance.

Thanks!

Posted Oct 2, 2007 14:06 UTC (Tue) by forthy (guest, #1525) [Link]

One thing about courtesy is when you ask something like "you fucking misogynic jerks, be more polite", you won't get what you want, not even as woman. Think before insulting!

The typical pattern I've seen in this discussion (from the rare woman who starts it) is a list of annoying things, where the fault is always on someone else, usually a group as large as possible ("society" or at least the whole "FOSS community"). Claims to support this alleged fault usually paint only half of the truth - e.g. one of those article mentioned that children visiting a hospital selected themselves for boys as doctors and girls as nurses, when the nurse in the hospital was actually a man, and the doctor was a woman. This ignores that more women study medicine than men, so the prejudices of children don't affect this profession at all. It's a good example that children believe far more in role models than when they are grown up.

Another pattern is that whenever someone brings up some statistics about mathematic skills (which they usually do when the question is "why are so few women in xxx"), the technically skilled women claim it's personally insulting her. No, we are not insulting, we are trying to find a reason. Another reason than "we are all misogynic jerks". And this math problem is not out of thin air - most of the girls I've met during my CS studies complained that the math they were forced to learn was too hard. A significant portion of the men complained, as well. But those people who still were in the computer pool at 8pm and hacked on stuff nobody ever told them to do (e.g. free software) didn't. Or they complained when a particular interesting math topic was removed from the lecture list. This is the part of the population who will do free software; we can forget about the others. They might do commercial software, where someone tells them what to do.