> That is very much attacking the person; if you think ad hominem means something else, so be it.
Indeed it was attacking people (not the specific person I was technically replying to, though, I thought that was obvious enough what with the unfortunate expletives being plural), and 'ad hominem' does mean something else (specifically, it names a debating strategy where attacking a person is used as a (fallacious) means to undermine the idea that person stands for. There's no idea to undermine here, however, as the attacks are purely for their own sake). My sincere apologies for this tedious pedantry!
> nobody held a gun to your head and forced you to switch to their new stuff
Of course, but the mainstream distros don't really give you the choice to stay with the old stuff, now do they? That's as close to the proverbial gun to user's head as those things ever get.
> you cannot hold a gun to their heads and force them to maintain something that does not match their idea of where the desktop should go
Yeah, just providing some lightly-filtered feedback here. In my experience, honest people tend to appreciate honest feedback.