The dark side of open source conferences
Posted Dec 14, 2010 16:54 UTC (Tue) by Lethedethius
Parent article: The dark side of open source conferences
Ya know, I've served 5 going on 6 years in the military and we face the same problems, our harrassment rate is above the United States actually (if I remember right) and we're taking action against it by publisizing what can be done to prevent it and how to report it.
Please both women and men need to be a little thick skinned and not take every interaction with men as harrassment, yes men will come onto women, it's human nature. If you're an attractive woman then I'm sorry, I will be attracted to you, if you have an attractive personality, I will be attracted to you. If you say no the first time then I should stop right there. There are laws that prevent this stuff, and every convention should exercise those laws, thru formal and informal complaints, have a black list of people who are not eligable to attend anymore because of misconduct. And those who go to far (digging in the pants) should be formally charged accordingly. I read about a stupid picture on a slide and laugh, was it nude? We're all adults people, if you do not like it turn your head, but at the same time feel free to have a man in a thong holding a laptop too in your slide deck. I'm a guy, if I don't like it I'll turn my head, not whine about it.
In life you must develop thick skin, take someone to the side and inquire about your issues and their thoughts. Please do not post nonsense about a picture, that follows up the alley of the Drew Carey Shows "French Fry and Catapillar" picture. Rediculous right?
The important issue here is sexual harrassment and assault, reporting is the most important thing. It IS NOT your fault you got sexually assaulted, it IS your fault you did not report it though. You don't want to be sexually assaulted then put a stop to it, don't complain about it. Report it to the authorities so they can take control and put the individual where they belong, behind cold steel bars.
A second issue is treating others as they should be treated, rather your a bimbo or a technical genius you should be treated the same, and that is hard to push. The strippers should get the same respect the speaker gets, period. If you have an issue with that, by all means shoot me and e-mail and we have a face to face chat in person, I'll persuade you to think the same way I think.
Men are attracted to women, it doesn't give them the right to harrass or assault them, but it is everyones right to ONCE(ONLY ONCE) to make a verbal advance and see where it takes us. This is a social event right? Aren't these advances a means of socializing? If you are too thin skinned to simply say no and not be offended by the individual then wear a sign saying "not interested in hooking up" because it happens at malls, walmart, and funerals; not just conventions. My .2cents(multipled by 15).
To summarize, don't be offended by advances, be offended by harrassment and assault, and report them! That should be the standard.
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