> If I misread it, then I apologize -- as I said, I don't know what you
intended. But you said, quote, "we need to rethink" the idea that women are
driven away by the bad behavior, and we need to, quote, "shift our
attention to what not makes women be interested in the first place".
Rethinking something is what you do when your understanding of something is
wrong. Shifting attention means that attention goes away from one thing
(the "barrier" of "bad behavior", in this case), and towards another.
I believe we need to rethink our belief that there is a large number of
women who are interested and got held back by these issues - perhaps that
is not the larger issue, and would even be comparable to that of men who
are not attracted to the community. It doesn't mean we should stop fixing
this issue, at all.
When I say shift the atention, I actually mean shifting our focus. It
doesn't mean 'drop everything else'.
I believe seeing the world as black and white is one of the problems we
usually have in these discussions, and I can see how my words could be
misinterpreted if you use a binary view of the world.
In some cases, we are so passionate, and so frigging tired of meeting
people who are just dumb, and who think this is a male area by definition,
that when someone questions anything, that one is surely one of the dumb
guys who are our enemies.
Why am I saying this? Because I think lots of interesting ideas have been
raised here that not necessarily mean 'women do not exist', nor 'this is
not your place', nor 'there is no problem', but these ideas have been
mostly shot down on the spot because they _looked_ like ideas you would
hear from an enemy. I mean, when one says 'maybe the main problem is not
this one', this is very different from saying 'there is no problem at all'