OK, I'll bite. Sides of this issue you might not be considering

Things *may* not be so hopeless: it turns out that telling men when they're being intolerable is actually possible even *without* ovaries.

I joke, but seriously, I don't wait for women to pop up and tell contributors that my community values testing, regular releases, or clean code; why should I make an exception when it comes to human decency? Obviously I'll screw up sometimes or miss things, but 1) women aren't born knowing how to handle this stuff either, 2) if I pick up some of the slack maybe they'll have a chance to actually do the stuff that I can't, instead of fighting fires and pounding their head against walls 24x7.