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Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really??Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really??Posted Aug 27, 2009 2:17 UTC (Thu) by njs (guest, #40338)In reply to: Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? by BrucePerens Parent article: FSF to host a mini-summit on Women in Free Software
> The other alternative would be to say that men in the field had established mechanisms which were astonishingly effective at keeping them out even though they really were interested, and which still stood today.
Many women who currently participate in FOSS claim that yes, this is exactly the case.
That may or may not be correct, but I am a bit astonished that you can dismiss the possibility as ridiculous, unworthy of consideration. Have you ever *talked* to women? Do you care what they say?
I'll also point out that your argument -- that women almost never do <whatever>, therefore they must not be interested -- has an extraordinarily poor track record. Within the last 70ish years, people have made that argument about essentially every field of human endeavor, and in every case it has either turned out to be wrong, or the jury is still out. (With FOSS in the latter category.)
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Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 4:24 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] Many women who currently participate in FOSS claim that yes, this is exactly the case. I'd be a lot more comfortable if I heard it from them, and if they explained what the mechanisms were and how they were so effective that even people who were interested were barred from participating with almost total effectiveness. And why this was not so for a number of other fields.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 10:13 UTC (Thu) by njs (guest, #40338) [Link] Well, obviously I cannot satisfy that request myself. Perhaps someone with the required chromosomes will chime in. In the mean time, though, can I point something out that you may not have considered? In FOSS, there are about 60 men for every 1 woman. Imagine that that one woman sees problems, and is trying to speak out about them. And suppose that -- as we see in these threads -- they can write dozens of comments to one man and yet fail to communicate those problems. Now multiply that by 60, and realize that's unasked-for work piled on top of, you know, actually hacking. Many women in FOSS do make heroic efforts to communicate what they see -- they form organizations like LinuxChix, Debian Women, they write essays, give keynotes, found blogs, curate wikis, etc. But those aren't what you want. You asking one of them to take the time to explain things to you personally. And after they do that, honestly, it also sounds like if you don't find their explanation sufficiently complete with regard to mechanism, with I don't know, charts and lists of people who never became hackers and circles and arrows on the back, then you reserve the right to ignore them and continue blithely on talking about how it's a shame women just don't have passion for programming. If someone posted a demand on some random mailing list, "I'm not going to believe that Bruce really thinks <...>, unless he shows up here and tells me so himself, and in *full detail*", what would you think of that person? You're an old school hacker, community leader, prominent person. It's easy to assume that with all that expertise and experience, if you can't see a problem then oh well, there must not *be* a problem. Please consider the alternative possibility that you are a good person, have the best of intentions, and also a big of unconsidered privilege that is making you part of the problem. Here are some quotes to start with:
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 17:30 UTC (Thu) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
FWIW, this is *exactly* why I haven't dived into this thread until now.
Bruce, I started using Linux in 1993 with slackware installed off a stack of floppies. I ran X with fvwm and kermit for dialup Internet. I learnt Perl a couple of years later and have worked professionally and full time with Open Source (mostly LAMP stack) since 1996. I've done all-nighters and adrenaline-fuelled hacking runs and totally fscked my PC with broken kernel recompiles. I have founded user groups, hosted mailing lists, launched open source projects, etc. I have contributed to major and minor projects all over the damn place; I regularly get email thanking me for writing one of the best known Perl manpages. I have spoken at conferences all over the world. I am well known by certain segments of USENET, IRC, and mailing lists, and geeks all over the world recognise my name when I travel; friends of mine threaten to get tshirts printed saying "Yes, I know Skud" because of this. I have been chewing people's ears off about why open source/free software is awesome and world-changing since I was 18 years old. And most of the above information is readily available online. About half the first page of Google results (from where I'm sitting right now) for "women in open source" mention me.
Recently, I have also been documenting issues that women face in open source, linking and discussing and synthesising and summarising and KEYNOTING OSCON. (I started doing this a bit in 1998, but stepped back from it for a while, so most of my women-in-open-source work is more recent.)
And then I look at this thread and see that a) "women are just less passionate about open source than men" and b) that nobody seems to believe us when we say there is a problem.
Fuck that. Follow some of those funny little blue underlined words and DO SOME READING.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 19:02 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] OK, I'm going to guess that you might be Yuwei Lin, and that you are a woman.In lin3_gender, there is discussion of a text-based environment as somehow more gendering. And the causes given are 1) perhaps they've had less IT training in general, 2) schools aren't teaching those environments, and 3) there is more reliance on externalized memory, but you're not implying that women are poorer at externalized memory. All of this seems to imply a nurture-based bias in early-to-middle education. And I'm very willing to believe in such a bias, but it's not Free Software's fault! Regarding why textual environments are seen to connote more expertise, rather than being a simple preference, it is true in many fields that the person who can function in a less supportive environment is seen as expert. It is also possibly the case that to those males with sensory-motor integration disfunction (I am a sufferer or ex-sufferer and anecdotal evidence is that such is common in technically-oriented males), a textual environment is definitely more comfortable. But I don't yet see the support for this as a female weakness rather than a male deficit. So, I agree that a more supportive environment for women is desirable. This is in part social and maybe part technical. I think you would need good experiments to support your theory that some software is inherently less supportive of women, and you don't have those experiments yet, and I'm still dubious. You don't seem to disagree with the early education differences, as far as I can follow. I feel this is where the most progress can be made. Unfortunately, it takes a generation to pay off. There is still the nature aspect. You narrate your own passion as an argument against this, but isn't there some chance that you are an outlier?
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 19:11 UTC (Thu) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
Bruce, I am Kirrily Robert, as a *trivial* search would have told you, if we hadn't met in person on multiple occasions.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 19:43 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] Oh, sorry. I just went by who came up in the first half page of google searches for women in Open Source. Lyn comes up first here. I am dubious about some of her science.So, going from your content instead of Lyn's, I would guess that you feel women in Free Software are marginalised, uncomfortable because you are seen as sexual objects, and excluded. Marginalization is to some extent a self-fulfilling prophecy. It is cured by the presence of enough women that they can't be ignored. Certainly we can help by being more welcoming, but unfortunately the greatest load is on the women who choose to be pathfinders. Believe it or not (and no snide comments please) I have had women in the workplace make me uncomfortable because they treated me as a sexual object. And I've been treated that way by a gay man too. I agree this is more of a problem for women, but you aren't alone. Also, I suspect some of the problem with actions of men in our field how strongly they have been effected by a lack of approachable women who are interested in the things they are. That will improve over time. The college program where I reported there was one woman is doing better now. And excluded. I do notice that in-groups of any kind tend to exclude outsiders - regardless of sex. I've seen this most powerfully in a group of railroad motorcar enthusiasts who very strongly excluded interested people who did not yet own a "speeder". Is this so very different from RMS' own problems into fitting into a society that - in the large - does not accept and understand him, and which he can not understand? I don't think so. But having been in another group that tries very consciously to attract women (we even make commercials about it! http://www.arrl.org/pio/ARRL709D.mp3), I am still not seeing that all of the issues are under our control. We still have a nature or nurture problem - either early childhood education or hard-coded gender issues. Of course, these have outliers.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 19:55 UTC (Thu) by maco (guest, #53641) [Link]
If the early-childhood-education thing was the only issue, about 1/4 of FOSS devs would be women...just like in commercial software. Instead, 3/200 are women. Something's wrong internally too.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:29 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] Yes. But I suggest that this is not primarily an issue of free software, but of what women choose to do with their free time.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:09 UTC (Thu) by jordanb (guest, #45668) [Link]
> http://www.arrl.org/pio/ARRL709D.mp3
I can't even begin to imagine why that's not working for you....
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 21:29 UTC (Thu) by nix (subscriber, #2304) [Link] Believe it or not (and no snide comments please) I have had women in the workplace make me uncomfortable because they treated me as a sexual object.Look up 'derailment'. This is an absolutely classic example. Men being treated as sexual objects is both rare and pretty much without consequences. The same is emphatically not true of that treatment of women.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 22:56 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] So, you don't believe me and you discount that I could have consequences. This is just what the women are complaining about.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 23:17 UTC (Thu) by maco (guest, #53641) [Link]
It's the difference between "it happens" and "it's a systemic problem." Yes, men get sexually harassed sometimes. Women get sexually harassed all the time.
Bringing a guy with you when you go to tech conferences usually helps. Then it's clear that someone else has already called dibs. But it doesn't always work. Sometimes it just results in inappropriate things being directed at you both. Obviously my partner will not disagree with me on a technical topic because then "he won't get any tonight," according to a fellow developer (note: this is utter bull. he is quite ready to correct me on any technical matter where he has more expertise...which is most of them, since he's been at this since I was in elementary school).
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 28, 2009 20:34 UTC (Fri) by hypatiadotca (guest, #60478) [Link]
Sometimes bringing a dude with you also results in a guy you were having perfectly interesting literally stopping mid-sentence and walking away from the conversation when he realizes that you're "with" the person standing next to you. No jokes. Happened to me at the first con I ever attended (Fifth HOPE).
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 28, 2009 19:07 UTC (Fri) by eon (guest, #60489) [Link]
This comment has pissed me off more than *anything* in this discussion:
>Believe it or not (and no snide comments please) I have had women in the workplace make me uncomfortable because they treated me as a sexual object. And I've been treated that way by a gay man too. I agree this is more of a problem for women, but you aren't alone.
Dude! really you haven't a clue what women have to deal with! Not a freakin' clue. I can not forget that I may be a target, on the street, at work, at the doctors office. And while you may feel "uncomfortable" I have to worry about rape. Dude, unless yr in prison or some other extreme situation you don't have to think about rape. You just don't. As women we modify everything & weigh the risks at all times. It's part of city life. And yea, I had a male, *MARRIED* co-worker who went out for drinks with other co-workers & told them he was gonna kidnap & rape me cause I was unavailable to him. I left that job.
And dude, I'm sooo not hitting on you cause I look you in the eyes while I talk to you. I'm not hitting on you cause I appreciate the cool things yr doing in tech. I'm just not hitting on you. So get a grip, be polite & treat me like the rest of the guys.
Don't trivialize the violence women have to deal with. It makes you look stupid.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 28, 2009 19:20 UTC (Fri) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] I do not mean to trivialize what you go through in any way, but to indicate that I understand and have sympathy.The main thing that I go through is other's perception that I am physically or emotionally intimidating. And once in a while I've made women scream through no intention of mine. I guess this is the opposite of what is happening to you, but be assured that it gets old.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Sep 22, 2009 15:12 UTC (Tue) by Lefty (guest, #51528) [Link] I do not mean to trivialize what you go through in any way... You'd be well-advised to stop doing it, that being the case.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 29, 2009 12:05 UTC (Sat) by omnot (guest, #60509) [Link]
Bruce, regarding your belief that the dearth of women participating in open source is primarily due to lack of interest or aptitude, I'd like you to come for a thought with me.
You say that you have had women and gay men cause you to feel uncomfortable in the workplace. I ask that you use that experience to conduct a thought experiment:
Imagine that your industry has 98% female participation. These are the women who made you feel uncomfortable only, on average, they are stronger, more arrogant and more notoriously horny than you are comfortable with.
Imagine that of those 98% 4% are overtly misogynistic and hostile, loudly mocking of your contribution, males in general and you, personally. Only a few of the other women ever spontaneously chide them and ask that you be treated fairly. 80% of the women don't even notice the bad behaviour.
Imagine also that your overall impression is that about half of the women you have ever worked with (still the mooted 98% of all workmates ever) have been overheard making casually derogatory remarks about the sexual proclivities of men -- specific and general -- and some of those comments have been made about you, personally. Your objections are dismissed as irrational: you should be a "good sport".
Sexually explicit questions are routinely asked of you directly, by women you are trying to work with, in any form of media with which you communicate. Some of the women are unnervingly creepy and persistent, and get disturbingly hostile when you do not respond as they would wish.
Imagine that suggestive to semi-pornographic images of impossibly handsome men, and lewd "clever" captions are used widely to promote the product you are working on. Imagine that when you suggest that the imagery is not cool, your teammates tease you, deride you, ostracize you and talk about how uptight you are behind your back.
Imagine that whenever you arrive at an industry conference some harried organiser snaps "Deliveries around the back". Once they let you in, a few people will ask you who your partner is (you must be accompanying a woman because men don't work in the industry), and almost everyone who does not ask makes that same assumption.
Imagine that walking into the conference involves wondering which of the women there -- women you are not attracted to, do not know and only wish to interact with on a professional level -- are the 4% who have nothing but contempt for men. Who are the 50% who see men in your industry as a bit of a joke? And who among them are going to try hitting on you over the course of the conference? And, when you decline their unwelcome and inappropriate advances, will they graciously accept 'no' for an answer? Whether you say yes or no, will they lie or exaggerate to their friends, to your cost?
Imagine the appeal of asking a female friend to accompany you to such an event so that you don't feel like a gazelle in a lion enclosure? Can you imagine the disgust and despair you feel that such a precaution should even cross your mind in such an honourable, well intentioned field of endeavour?
So, Bruce, how good is your imagination? How long would you tolerate marinating in that before you could not be bothered volunteering your spare time and earnest efforts any more?
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:06 UTC (Thu) by cesy (guest, #60482) [Link]
She doesn't look like an outlier from here.
Early education does make a difference, and there is bias there, but there is also prejudice in open source, as well as prejudice in the IT industry in general. All of those things need considering. However, here, we were talking about open source, not early education, so please don't derail the conversation.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 21:24 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] I really think the problem is less Open Source than external factors. So, just talking about Open Source doesn't actually help to solve the problem significantly.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Sep 22, 2009 15:15 UTC (Tue) by Lefty (guest, #51528) [Link] If that were the case, why the order-of-magnitude difference in participation in FLOSS development versus the software industry in general...?
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 21:27 UTC (Thu) by nix (subscriber, #2304) [Link]
Some of us believe you (but you knew that).
(There are 'I know Skud' t-shirts? where? ;) )
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 21:48 UTC (Thu) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
They haven't been made yet, but my Canadian BFF Marna keeps talking about it, because wherever she travels she meets people who know me. Email me and I'll put you in touch :)
Posted Aug 28, 2009 2:04 UTC (Fri) by jamesmrh (guest, #31622) [Link]
Where can I get one of these t-shirts?
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Sep 22, 2009 15:10 UTC (Tue) by Lefty (guest, #51528) [Link] Oh, I think you want to be careful, there, Kirrily: Bruce is likely to accuse you of being "sickly nonlinear". In point of fact, in my attempt to discuss the issue with Bruce at the Community Leadership Summit, I found myself being interrupted in mid-sentence by Bruce over and over so that he could provide me with an apparently endless series of reasons why I was wrong to bring up RMS' behavior at GCDS: "He's got Asperger's, he's incapable of perceiving when he's offended anyone, he's incapable of apologizing when it's pointed out to him that he's offended anyone, he's been doing the same joke for fifteen years, you're not a girl, and there's really not a problem, anyway." (The resemblance to the argumentation here bears an eerie familiarity, in fact. Bruce seems to have thought this through and, sadly, this is the best he can manage.)At which point I decided "this wasn't a discussion", and left to find someone more interesting to talk to. Fortunately, there proved to be no shortage. For the record, I personally view this "outreach effort" on the FSF's part, absent any acknowledgment of past bad behavior and any commitment to do better in the future, as being in essence a whitewash. Just sayin'.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:17 UTC (Thu) by Myrtti (guest, #57414) [Link]
I've been using open source for quite a while, first concious try was around 2001 with installing Red Hat from floppies. I've used Linux as my primary OS since 2003, and I've worked for Finnish Center for Open Source Solutions, am supervising the Finnish equivalent of Summer of Code for the fourth year, have worked as software developer for a Finnish open source software development and deployment company for two years. I'm an Ubuntu member due to my contribution to the community, and I use emacs daily in my work doing scripting and editing LaTeX.
But I know all too well that my existence is a matter of pure faith, a bit like the existence of Invisible Pink Unicorns.
So never mind me...
// Myrtti - http://myrtti.fi
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 21:43 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] Hi,Since you are one of the people summoned to a thread already in progress, I feel it my duty to inform you that nobody was attempting to say that you don't exist. The topic is why there are not more women involved, and whether this is due to internal to Free Software issues or external ones. I believe that some of the problems, and indeed the most significant ones, are external to Free Software. I think one significant problem is early childhood education serving as a demotivator of women to participate in technical volunteerism as well as technical occupations. Beyond that, the question is whether there is something different about women - not you obviously but women as a population - that make them less interested in technical volunteerism. We have more data regarding technical occupations. I would be really glad to see a serious discussion of this.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 22:18 UTC (Thu) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
Speaking of "threads already in progress", are you aware that this discussion is part of a larger thread that's been going on for at least a decade? From where I'm sitting, you're the one coming to a thread in progress, not having read the FAQs, reiterating threads that have previously been covered in enormous depth by people with greater knowledge of the subject area, and acting as if you know all the answers despite being (AFAICT) a complete newbie in the field.
It's like if I showed up on the Debian mailing lists and suggested that Debian would be much more popular and successful if it would only include a Flash player in the distro.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 22:23 UTC (Thu) by jordanb (guest, #45668) [Link]
> It's like if I showed up on the Debian mailing lists and suggested that Debian would be much more popular and successful if it would only include a Flash player in the distro.
FYI: http://packages.debian.org/lenny/gnash
;)
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 22:57 UTC (Thu) by maco (guest, #53641) [Link]
I think she means Adobe's, installed by default :P
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 23:00 UTC (Thu) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
What? No, that can't be right. What I want to know is why there isn't Flash support in Debian.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 23:24 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] The program he pointed out does support Flash. Not as well as the version from Adobe, yet.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 23:28 UTC (Thu) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
I don't think that's true. I think the problem is that Debian doesn't have Flash support. Why don't we address that first?
(Do I need to put emoticons here to make this clearer? Would ";)" help?)
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 23:46 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] :-)Well, I would swear that when I ran gnash as a mozilla plugin, I saw the not-HTML menus and animations that were supposed to use flash. Just slowly, and using a lot of memory.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Sep 6, 2009 8:09 UTC (Sun) by mdz@debian.org (subscriber, #14112) [Link]
Bruce, if you read the past few messages carefully, I think you'll find that
Skud was making an analogy, mirroring the ignorance, and unwillingness to listen, which is so often displayed by men when this subject comes up.
Your line of argument sounds, to someone with a working knowledge of
With apologies for spoiling the joke by spelling it out...
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 23:34 UTC (Thu) by jordanb (guest, #45668) [Link]
Q: Why isn't there flash support in Debian?
A: There is! The GNU Gnash player is installed by default, and it supports the Flash file format. Unfortunatly, it's not 100% complete in its support yet, but progress is being made.
Q: Why isn't Adobe's proprietary Flash player distributed on Debian media, such that it is installed by default?
A: You'd have to ask Adobe about this. Their licensing terms forbid it.
Q: Why doesn't Debian provide an installer that fetches Adobe Flash Player from adobe.com?
A: It does. The package is called flashplugin-nonfree.
Q: Why is flashplugin-nonfree in 'contrib' instead of 'main'?
A: Because it relies on non-free software, which prevents it from going in 'main' per the Debian Free Software Guidelines.
Q: I don't care about the DFSG. Why isn't installing packages from 'contrib' enabled by default on my debian system?
A: Because when asked, during installation, you said that the 'contrib' repository should not be automatically enabled for you.
Hope that clears things up. ;)
Debian Posted Aug 28, 2009 5:00 UTC (Fri) by njs (guest, #40338) [Link]
I saw a web page that says you just have to log in as root and go to adobe.com and download it.
But I haven't tried yet because I keep getting errors about my video card. I tried changing the permissions but it didn't help. What kinds of idiot designed this? It's a *brand-new* nvidia g10000, it works fine in Windows. Linux sucks :-(
I think I'm going to try this thing my friend told me about called "automatix", do you know it?
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 23:23 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] You're chiding me for being a newbie after explaining in your paper how bad it is to do that. :-)I really do appreciate having you attach some data to this issue. The LWN discussion was not terribly factual with men telling other men what was going on with the women. Like many newbies, I think I have something to contribute to the issue. The proper reaction is not to smash me down before I have a chance.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 28, 2009 5:12 UTC (Fri) by rictic (guest, #58655) [Link] Like many newbies, I think I have something to contribute to the issue. The proper reaction is not to smash me down before I have a chance. And if, having been linked to a number articles, a FAQ and a wiki, you continue to evidence a lack of examination of the conversation already in progress? A more forceful indication that the newbie go and educate themselves before continuing, or at least ask questions rather than making suggestions seems appropriate to me.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 19:41 UTC (Thu) by zrusilla (guest, #60475) [Link]
If you registered for a YAPC::NA in the past few years through ACT and paid online, you can thank me. I wrote the gateway with TPF's payment processor. On my own time. For free.
I attend Perl Monger meetings, gave lightning talks at YAPC and OSCON, read copiously, expand my skills on the job, take classes, and dispense advice to fellow geeks of any sex. What I don't spend my free time doing is butting heads to establish alpha geekdom on IRC. That might explain why you've never heard of me.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 19:51 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] If I don't know you, it is because I am not in the Perl community. I hate IRC because so many people type slowly that I'd rather get them on a telephone and get it over with. But I was very conscious of who the women were in the Debian community, and disappointed when it turned out that some were not really women.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:19 UTC (Thu) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
So you're saying that your experience is limited and you have no particular knowledge of women in the wider open source community unless you personally know them (and maybe not even then). Gotcha.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 21:46 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] No, not at all. She implied that I did not know her because she doesn't participate in male battles on IRC. That was sort of a smear (although to be fair I'm not sure she meant it as one) and I felt it necessary to point out that I don't even like IRC.You went and tweeted that I'd said women don't exist in Open Source? That's sort of inaccurate, isn't it?
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:42 UTC (Thu) by garethgreenaway (guest, #60483) [Link]
I'm curious what these "women" turned out to be and why that was disappointing? At the end of the day what does someone's gender or perceived gender have to do with their role or contributions to a community?
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:52 UTC (Thu) by jordanb (guest, #45668) [Link]
Batten down the hatches! This teapot's in for a stormy night!
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 22:24 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] Men using their wife or girlfriend's email account and not correcting us when we responded to them using the wife or girlfriend's name. For months.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 19:46 UTC (Thu) by selenamarie (guest, #60476) [Link]
Hi!
I started using Linux in 1994, installing Slackware from floppies on a home-built machine some friends of mine from the dorms helped me pick out parts with. I screwed the motherboard into a case myself and tried not to bend pins when I put the cpu in for the first time. I was terrified I was going to break something, but my friends wouldn't do it for me.
More recently, I was the co-chair of Open Source Bridge (a conference for open source developers and "citizens" in Portland, OR), and am very involved in PostgreSQL.
Anyway, I have written a lot about the topic of women and open source -- primarily from angle that mentorship and social circles really impact women's participation.
I think your comment could be an example of this effect. :)
When more of the men who lead and code the core open source projects start to know and are friends with the women who participate, I think we will see a huge shift in perception and reality around recruitment and participation of women.
My approach is to just do stuff - start user groups, write code, tell people what I think - rather than argue about whether there are or are not enough women.
When people ask me how to get more women involved in their software projects, I tell them to look around, start talking to the women around them and ask the women they find who show interest to participate directly. This, oddly enough, tends to work. I live in Portland, OR -- which some people think is some kind of techno-communal utopia. But we're just like everyone else.. We just have a bit more energy around bringing social activity and tech together right now.
I'm not very interested in discussing the barriers to participation at this point. They are there, *shrug*.
I think it is far more productive to just take action, measure the results and adjust accordingly.
If you're interested in some of what we've done, I've got a blog post about a specific group that's was successful in the last couple years: http://www.chesnok.com/daily/2009/04/29/whats-changed-por...
And here's something I wrote for O'reilly a while ago:
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:16 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] I like your papers. And I am very glad that you are bringing more women in. But pretty much your paper discusses women who are interested. Do you have any call on how many never will be, and why?
Reasons women avoid open source Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:31 UTC (Thu) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
http://infotrope.net/blog/2009/07/25/standing-out-in-the-...
http://infotrope.net/blog/2009/05/19/dispatches-from-the-... (linked from above) http://geekfeminism.wikia.com/wiki/Open_Source_Software http://tldp.org/HOWTO/Encourage-Women-Linux-HOWTO/x106.html http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0262133989 http://flosspols.org/
Go, read.
Reasons women avoid open source Posted Aug 27, 2009 22:06 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] This is helpful, thank you very much. I will read every one.From the top two, it seems that these are general, rather than gendered, barriers. The need to build a whole development environment has kept me from hacking on some code at times. I really cringed at the fact that mailing lists were prefixed baby- . Women will take that, eh? I would have considered it to be abusive of beginners.
Reasons women avoid open source Posted Aug 28, 2009 13:08 UTC (Fri) by coriordan (guest, #7544) [Link]
When I worked for an engineering company, anyone with less than ~4 years of experience was a "baby engineer". (It was a small company and there were no female engineers)
Reasons women avoid open source Posted Aug 28, 2009 15:32 UTC (Fri) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
Probably worth noting that this is the term used by the babydevs themselves -- not imposed by anyone else AFAIK.
Reasons women avoid open source Posted Aug 28, 2009 18:28 UTC (Fri) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] I accept that. But I suspect it could be possible that they're excluding people just because of the name. I never buy those "Dummy's Guide to C" books either. It seems to me that that they promote low self-respect.
Reasons women avoid open source Posted Aug 28, 2009 18:34 UTC (Fri) by jordanb (guest, #45668) [Link]
Or it's a sign of enough self-confidence to be self-deprecating, and enough knowledge to counteract the Dunning-kruger effect? :P
Those 'Dummies' books are trash of course, but that's true of 90 percent of tech books.
Reasons women avoid open source Posted Aug 28, 2009 18:39 UTC (Fri) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] Yes, but since the goal of such lists is to lower the barriers to participation, asking for the participant to be self-actualized first is not productive. :-)
Reasons women avoid open source Posted Aug 29, 2009 11:02 UTC (Sat) by njs (guest, #40338) [Link]
For some, the name might be a way of giving themselves permission to make mistakes and be confused while learning, without risking their self-respect.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:31 UTC (Thu) by selenamarie (guest, #60476) [Link]
Hi!
Thanks for reading! I appreciate it.
Honestly, trying to figure out why there are a lot of women who never will be interested isn't really a priority for me at the moment. If we look at *open source hackers* as a slice of the population of the entire world, we're a minority - no question. So addressing the issue of why more *people* aren't interested in hacking on open source -- I think the same reasons apply to women.
The stuff that Nat Torkington (and many others) have talked about and done -- volunteering at schools, and finding ways of integrating interesting/fun technology into curriculum, and starting very early (primary school) -- are important. But those aren't the only ways that we can change our culture. We can actually change how many women are involved *now*, by simply looking around for the people who are on the fence.
I think it is counterproductive for hackers to throw up their hands and say, "Well, most women just aren't interested" when the due diligence has not been paid to encourage people who are interested, but not participating -- for whatever reason.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:34 UTC (Thu) by cesy (guest, #60482) [Link]
Do remember that there are many women who are interested but who don't get involved because of the barriers to entry. If you look at Skud's previous blog posts, this is particularly noticeable with Dreamwidth - many women who were interested but had never contributed to a project before became heavily involved once the barriers to entry were lowered.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:46 UTC (Thu) by hypatiadotca (guest, #60478) [Link]
Skud linked to the "unlocking the clubhouse" book/study that CMU ran a few years back. There's an entire chapter in it titled :the nexus of confidence and interest". That's part of your answer - please go read it.
Sure, there will always be women who aren't interested. Just like there will always be men who are honestly just not interested in going into nursing. But at the moment, "interest" is so clouded by cultural expectations around gender roles - "computers are for dudes, nursing is for chicks" - that the idea of "interest" is effectively meaningless.
A more important point to focus on, that I think you're missing in this whole discussion - how is Open Source / Free Software <i>missing out</i> because women aren't participating? How can we change that, as a community?
Then go read the various link posted around this thread, where many suggestions regarding that have already been made :)
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 19:57 UTC (Thu) by talbutt (guest, #60477) [Link]
Bruce, I gotta say, you COMPLETELY missed the point there. The previous posters were talking about documented examples of harassment of women on the Internet and at conventions, and you went off on some tangent about ... well ... I've got no clue really. No one mentioned "software [that is] inherently less supportive of women." Events and behaviors are being discussed, and your looking for a technical solution is part of the problem.
So you don't have to guess: I'm a woman too.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:58 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] The theory of software that is less supportive in women is in this paper. We don't need to discuss it, as I was confusing the person I was replying to as the author of that paper, erroneously.As for women being harassed at trade shows, it's horrible. It's not restricted to our field, though. Consider this, perhaps the worst example known. On the internet? Yes, I'm sure it happens there too. I am just having trouble with the idea that this is almost 100% reliable in keeping out women. No other cause at all, eh?
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 22:20 UTC (Thu) by ShinyShiny (guest, #60486) [Link]
Why do you want a theory that is 100% reliable in keeping women outta open source contributing?
There's plenty of women, right here, right now, on this thread saying the sexist shit that happens does drive them away.... Are you deliberately ignoring and discounting them?
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 23:26 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] Nope. I am just astonished that whatever is happening is so effective.I am not against fixing the problems within the free software community. I am not convinced that those are all of the problems or even the worst problems.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 28, 2009 7:34 UTC (Fri) by koipond (guest, #60493) [Link]
I've been lurking a while on the conversation but I'd like to stop at this for a second.
You're surprised that sexism has been effective in keeping women away?
Just stop on that comment for a second and then realize that this is privilege. You don't have to worry about this kind of thing at all and because you don't it is a symbol of your privilege. You are free from this kind of fear and frustration.
What had been increasing other people's frustration is that what you've been saying though your words is the whole, "I don't see it, ergo it must not exist." When people point it out you still have that hat on your head and there's nothing women comment makers and experience sharers feel that they can do to dislodge it because you're denying their experience.
It is a large problem because the people who are affected by it say it's a big problem. You can't tell people who are experiencing the situation that it's not a big deal because that's making their problems seem invisible.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 28, 2009 17:54 UTC (Fri) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] Well, Skud was helpful with content that explains the situation. Before then I had mostly men telling me how women felt, which wasn't very helpful.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:01 UTC (Thu) by cesy (guest, #60482) [Link]
I am a woman and I do work in open source.
You appear to be repeating urban myths that have long since been disproved. Please go and read some of the 101 and FAQ entries on the GeekFeminism wiki.
Also, it appears that this website can't cope with the idea that I can develop both proprietary and open source software.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 28, 2009 12:27 UTC (Fri) by alankila (subscriber, #47141) [Link]
Hmm. Where is it implied that free software and proprietary code is incompatible? I do both as well, and I think there aren't enough people contributing to the discussions here who have a healthy respect for proprietary software. If anything, I feel that this perspective might help open source software to "grow up" in some sense or other.
The sort of code I write for business generally has very little technical merit, it's usually just webpages and the required code behind to drive them, the sort of stuff that is so boring and predictable that my eyes glaze over just thinking about it. On the other hand, I use open source stuff to do something that interests me personally. In latter, doing the work is its own reward.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:05 UTC (Thu) by yatima (guest, #59881) [Link]
Hi Bruce, this is Rachel Chalmers. I first interviewed you _ten years ago_ and I have been writing about and consulting on open source ever since.
One of the powerful mechanisms at work is invisibility. You know Kirrily Robert and I - two founders of the Geekfeminism blog - in person, but you didn't remember us.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:24 UTC (Thu) by jordanb (guest, #45668) [Link]
Bruce. You sexist pig!
How dare you not remember someone you met years ago!
I guess by the sudden influx this thing must have been posted to one of the geekfeminism mailing lists.
http://redwing.hutman.net/~mreed/warriorshtm/cybersisters...
Corbet: Why not implement some feature to turn off comments on a article when things get too heated?
I'd say that when you start getting attacked for "silencing women" because you asked someone to quit talking about hymens would be a good place to draw the line.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:26 UTC (Thu) by james_w (subscriber, #51167) [Link]
A heated conversation is a number of women posting to confirm that they exist and cite some of their contributions?
*phew* it's hot in here, someone get me out.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 20:36 UTC (Thu) by cesy (guest, #60482) [Link]
That wasn't what was said.
And it was posted to Skud's twitter, which you can see for yourself.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 21:17 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] Of course I remember you. But I am only barely acquainted with Kirrily Robert and meet thousands of people every year.I am not attempting to say you're not there. I am, however, saying that there aren't very many women participating, and I suspect that if we had a perfectly welcoming Free Software community we'd still have a lot less than 50%. And I suspect the reasons are not directly in control of the Free Software community. Nature or nurture is an old argument, but still going on.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 21:49 UTC (Thu) by yatima (guest, #59881) [Link]
"I suspect that if we had a perfectly welcoming Free Software community we'd still have a lot less than 50%."
You may well be right: let's try it and see!
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 21:58 UTC (Thu) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
Free Software ought to be able to do *at least* as well as the broader tech community, which runs around 20%ish. As a movement dedicated to Freedom and hopefully to improving the world, I would hope we could do better.
We have seen communities that make an active effort to support and welcome women having 10% (Drupal) to *well* over 50% (Dreamwidth, AO3). If you could increase the ratio of women across open source to 30% (a not unreasonable goal), that would effectively increase the number of open source developers by 30%. People have suggested ways in which we could do this, and which appear to have worked in multiple cases. Why are you resistant to it?
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 22:05 UTC (Thu) by jordanb (guest, #45668) [Link]
> Free Software ought to be able to do *at least* as well as the broader tech community, which runs around 20%ish.
I *totally* agree.
What's more, Bruce's HAM community should be doing *at least* as well as commercial radio broadcasting in attracting women.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 22:22 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] Well, it seems that one of the principles you are pushing is projects working harder to have easy entry. Why would anyone resist?Perhaps because they don't feel it's right for their project (might be true, might not be). Perhaps because they personally aren't good at dealing with newbies (in which case they need to recruit intermediaries first). Or because it's framed as a women's issue and this puts them on the defensive. Does it work better when you promote it in a gender-neutral style?
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 23:05 UTC (Thu) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
I got pretty good feedback from my OSCON keynote, where I (partially) framed it that way, yes. But I wonder why the job of pointing out that a welcoming cmomunity will bring in more developers seems to fall mostly to women?
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 23:29 UTC (Thu) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] Because you are better at it.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 28, 2009 0:12 UTC (Fri) by hypatiadotca (guest, #60478) [Link]
That's not giving guys a lot of credit :)
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 28, 2009 1:03 UTC (Fri) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] In my corporate consultation, I specify for the person who interfaces with the Open Source community someone who will not take umbrage regardless of the incitement, so that they won't write something that gets in blogs and the press and makes the company look bad.I recommend a woman who has brought up teenagers, or if they can't find one an older man who has brought up teenagers. Of course this is not an automatic qualification for being level-headed, so the corporate PR officer has to judge the candidates individually. They have lots of hot-headed young men in their software departments. I don't generally find them qualified for the position.
Women expected to take care-taker/support/social/maternal roles Posted Aug 28, 2009 13:31 UTC (Fri) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
I just can't even figure out how to respond to this, but I wanted to flag it as problematic.
Women expected to take care-taker/support/social/maternal roles Posted Aug 28, 2009 18:06 UTC (Fri) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] The point is that a young male programmer is often - certainly not always - the wrong person for the job. Who would you pick for a task where you must always respond calmly and without provocation, regardless of how the other side is talking to you? And they're talking about your code. I assure you, this is a very difficult position for most male programmers. Women don't all handle it well either, but among the population of women you can often find someone with the necessary ego-detachment from the topic to do the job.
Women expected to take care-taker/support/social/maternal roles Posted Aug 28, 2009 20:48 UTC (Fri) by hypatiadotca (guest, #60478) [Link]
I think that if the job requirements are actually explained as such - "you must always respond calmly and without provocation, regardless of how the other side is talking to you" - your young male programmers may be up to the challenge.
The reason I your earlier statements about putting women in this position problematic is that you're basically tailgating on a particularly shitty way that women are socialized - to take responsibility for other people's feelings at the expense of any of our own, to mediate, to avoid conflict, to have poor interpersonal boundaries. These are useful forms of social conditioning for this particular purpose, yes, but they are also frustrating ones to see perpetuated as an expected role for women.
I realize this is a bit meta, I hope it makes sense :) Fundamentally, it's socialized behaviour rather than actual skill, and that's problematic.
Women expected to take care-taker/support/social/maternal roles Posted Aug 28, 2009 21:13 UTC (Fri) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] Well, after some strong and all-too-public lessons and thorough knowledge that it's important, I still can't reliably do that job myself. So, I find it difficult to ask it of others with similar backgrounds.Is it not possible for a woman to do what I'm asking while maintaining internal strength? I see it as an area in which women often excel and something very powerful that they bring to the table as managers.
Women expected to take care-taker/support/social/maternal roles Posted Aug 29, 2009 11:25 UTC (Sat) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
But many of us don't *want* to. Many of us would rather be hacking!
Women expected to take care-taker/support/social/maternal roles Posted Aug 29, 2009 17:29 UTC (Sat) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] Well, in between responding to LWN posts :-), I am working on something that is really important to society that I can't tell you about yet. And I'd rather be hacking too.
Women expected to take care-taker/support/social/maternal roles Posted Aug 31, 2009 13:27 UTC (Mon) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
Sure, but presumably nobody's saying it's your duty to do so because of your gender.
Women expected to take care-taker/support/social/maternal roles Posted Aug 31, 2009 13:26 UTC (Mon) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
It occurs to me to add that many women -- especially geeky women -- have trouble with this stuff too. I went through school having parent-teacher nights where the teachers said how I was poorly socialised. I got picked on in the playground. I had few friends. I hung out in the library and computer labs to avoid dealing with other kids. They considered keeping me down a year in school because of my social problems -- thank $DEITY that never happened!
As an adult, and particularly since my mid 20s, I've made a very serious effort to try and gain some social skills. It didn't come naturally to me, and I had to do it painstakingly and with lots of errors. I know other geek women who've done the same; one friend of mine treats it as a process of exploration and debugging, for example. It is absolutely possible for most people to do this (I concede that there are a small number who can't), and I don't see why men should be exempted from this.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 28, 2009 7:36 UTC (Fri) by koipond (guest, #60493) [Link]
This is also saying that it's your job to be more welcoming which is putting the onus on women to be more inclusive when it's been stated and linked and pointed at that they are in the minority.
What should be said instead of, "You're better at it" is that "The community could improve on it."
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 28, 2009 18:18 UTC (Fri) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] I think the root of the problem is that the young male programmers very often take tremendous pride in their code and can not always take criticism with a level head, especially from those they view as of lesser skill, and they view communication as a conflict to be won.I can't take the time to put the male programmers in the company through whatever training (or is it therapy) they need to fill this role properly. Nobody would pay for it. So, the short-cut is to look for someone who already doesn't base his/her ego on his/her code and doesn't view communication as conflict, and who has long experience with difficult communication. Such a person often turns out to be a woman who has brought up teenagers. It works. This isn't to say that males can't or shouldn't solve this problem.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 29, 2009 0:33 UTC (Sat) by maco (guest, #53641) [Link]
A point to this:
Say you're a young woman, raised (as is still common for girls) to be quiet, maybe a little shy, definitely humble...it's not polite to brag, after all...and you encounter the Prideful Young Man. He starts talking about Slackware and how that's what real geeks use and listing off languages he knows (even if he only ever wrote a 5 line script in that language, he still lists it), and blah blah blah...bragging. You, being taught that one does not brag...believe that he does know all that...and much more, since of course he'll be humble and understate his skills. He, having been raised to...well...show off...interprets your "Oh, I just know Python" (with the unstated "fluently...but I also have used C and C++ and Java and Ruby on occasion...but I dont REALLY know them, so they don't count") as: ugh, noobie high-level programmer.
You end up with an inflated sense of what he knows. He ends up thinking you knows less than you do. And well...maybe you're just not 1337 enough for this group he's in. Maybe this isn't right for you. I mean, jeez, you're the same age and he's so much more advanced! You must not be good at this. That's it, this just isn't your thing. Hmm...maybe you'll go become a math teacher...
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If you get past that point, you'll learn that in geek circles, overconfidence is the rule in stating your skills. You have to talk yourself up like it's a job application instead of being politely humble. It's intimidating until you realize this.
I spent the first year of university being intimidated of a group of guys in my class. Turns out we're pretty close in programming skills, and for Linux skills there's a range that I'm somewhere in the middle of.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 29, 2009 0:45 UTC (Sat) by BrucePerens (guest, #2510) [Link] Spot on. About the only way I know to build her confidence is with praise, and by facilitating achievement.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 31, 2009 13:34 UTC (Mon) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
There are a number of other ways to help, too.
One very important one is to allow women to behave and communicate in ways that men do -- being assertive, self-promoting, having vigorous disagreements with people, etc -- without applying a double standard and saying that they should be nicer or watch their tone.
Another is to call out people who silence and discourage women, including people who expect women (and girls) to behave nicely as above. (This goes right down to early childhood, btw, so watch how people act around their kids!)
Another is to proactively seek out women doing good stuff and help promote their work to others, by writing about them, nominating them for awards, offering them speaking engagements, etc.
Another is to donate money or time to organisations working with girls and women who are into technology.
Now you know four more ways :)
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 31, 2009 14:41 UTC (Mon) by paulj (subscriber, #341) [Link] allow women to behave and communicate in ways that men do - being assertive, self-promoting, having vigorous disagreements with people, etc Eek, no! We need to *raise* the bar for communication - not encourage others to drop theirs.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 31, 2009 21:16 UTC (Mon) by njs (guest, #40338) [Link]
I think the issues are, if anything, complementary.
"Raising the bar for communication" is not the same as "subject everyone to the current feminine bar" -- personally, I'm all for assertiveness, self-promotion, and vigorous disagreements, so long as they're carried out in a way that respects everyone involved. The full rules for female/feminine behavior are weird and nasty -- disagreement may have to be expressed as ostensible agreement, misunderstandings are the woman's fault, things like that. I don't think anyone wants those to be universal, least of all the women who know them best.
And the double-standard is enforced by men (mostly) who freak out if women break the rules -- i.e., men who aren't meeting reasonable standards for respectful communication. Raising the bar for them, and fixing the double standard, work out to be the same thing.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 31, 2009 23:22 UTC (Mon) by paulj (subscriber, #341) [Link] "Raising the bar for communication" is not the same as "subject everyone to the current feminine bar". ... The full rules for female/feminine behavior are weird and nasty No doubt there are many subtleties of the rules of female discourse that yet escape me, but in general it seems that females are slightly less inclined toward destructive, aggressive argumentation than men (particularly younger men). So to improve the tone in free software online communication from the (generally) young-male-like level to the female level would be an improvement. Perhaps that level again could be improved, but that's beside the point. The point is we should improve, not find a way to get women (and perhaps others) to be more comfortable with the current level. personally, I'm all for assertiveness, self-promotion, and vigorous disagreements, so long as they're carried out in a way that respects everyone involved. Ok, that's interesting. Why do you think that? I used to think that too, and I used to be *very* assertive and vigorous in my disagreements with people. However, with time, I've come to see these traits as actually being destructive to good debate. They tend to poison things and increase the risk that people start taking things personally. Further, these traits, I have come to think, do not bring anything positive to a debate. Assertiveness of personality is a poor substitute for sound reasoning with supporting data, such that the argument asserts itself (to right-thinking observers at least). Vigorous disagreement (as in "direct", "forthright") has a high risk of stimulating egos into taking offence, compared a more indirect and less confrontational approach (no matter how much we'd like to ignore egos, it seems they'll always be with each of us). Etc. However, I am probably misunderstanding your point. ;) Overall, I do not disagree with your more central point that we should be working toward some higher bar of respectful communication.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Sep 1, 2009 8:17 UTC (Tue) by njs (guest, #40338) [Link]
> The point is we should improve, not find a way to get women (and perhaps others) to be more comfortable with the current level.
The complaint about the double-standard has nothing to with whether women are comfortable with the current rough-and-tumble of FOSS discourse; it's about men being uncomfortable with women who are half as outspoken as the men themselves are.
Re: assertiveness, self-promotion, vigorous disagreement: Yeah, I think we're talking at cross-purposes a bit. By assertiveness I mean, for instance, speaking up when one has something to say; there's nothing wrong with pointing out one's accomplishments when relevant (rather than as a way to knock others down); and as for vigorous disagreement, it is entirely possible to present one's thoughts in a forthright manner without attacking anyone's ego. "Thanks for the patch! The current version has a few problems that prevent me applying it as is; could you look over the following and see what you think? ..." All those are, I think, good things.
OTOH, there are some people who delight in turning fact-based disagreements into personal fights, and are happy to win through logical rudeness[1] and gratuitous nastiness. One of the usual ways to pick up social status in geek circles, for instance, is by flaming people to a crisp -- these are scored not on whether you happened to be right or wrong, but on how thoroughly the recipient is ground into dust, and how entertaining bystanders find their destruction. Many communities have designated targets for their members to practice on.
All that is just obnoxious, and goes *way* beyond "vigorous disagreement". Often someone who gets called on such behavior will start waving around terms like "free speech", "healthy debate", "vigorous disagreement", as a way to deflect criticism, but pff. That's just more of the rudeness that got them into the mess in the first place, and I'm under no obligation to buy into their self-serving redefinition :-).
One more point about the idea of raising the bar for men rather than lowering it for women: In addition to my concerns about whether that's an accurate description of what we want, it seems to me that by framing it that way, you run the risk of providing comfort to those who *don't* want to give up the double-standard -- you may give them an excuse to stop worrying about habitual sexism while feeling virtuous about working on the "real problem" (whether they accomplish anything or not). I assume that's not your intention, but the possibility makes me uncomfortable, and might be off-putting to other potential allies as well.
[1] http://www.earlham.edu/~peters/writing/rudeness.htm
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 22:18 UTC (Thu) by mjg59 (subscriber, #23239) [Link] I suspect that if we had a perfectly welcoming Free Software community we'd still have a lot less than 50%Given that the number of women inolved in computing at pretty much any age is less than 50%, I suspect you're right. Fixing the issues in free software won't magically fix any of the problems that exist in the wider world. That's not an excuse for not doing it, though - we should strive to at the very least be no worse than the commercial software industry or CS intake. And once we're there, any progress in the wider world should be reflected in our own demographics as wel.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 27, 2009 22:25 UTC (Thu) by ShinyShiny (guest, #60486) [Link] Given that the number of women inolved in computing at pretty much any age is less than 50%, I suspect you're right. Worldwide yes - but you can find whole countries of millions of people, where the ICT work force is > 50% women. (Indonesia for example) And there are times in history where the gender of programmers, worldwide, was almost completely women.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 29, 2009 4:53 UTC (Sat) by yatima (guest, #59881) [Link] Are you maybe referring to Malaysia, and this study that Skud refuted last week?
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 29, 2009 11:29 UTC (Sat) by Skud (guest, #59840) [Link]
To be fair, what I refuted was not that Malaysia has a high proportion of women in IT -- it absolutely does. I was pointing out that this doesn't mean that "the developing world" has more women in IT, nor that Malaysia lacks sexism in IT.
Women don't have the same passion for open source men do? Really?? Posted Aug 28, 2009 1:56 UTC (Fri) by eon (guest, #60489) [Link]
Not a unicorn here! I was a DB engineer who got talked into being a Sys Admin in 1989 (I'd been using unix at an AT&T contract gig in the 80s). It was all DIY. I used my initials so no one would know I was a woman back in those wild days of usenet.
In 1995 at a conf where I went to find vendors for parts (worked in biotech at the time & the war put a crimp in our budget). A man in a suit handed me a biz card & told me & my older female mentor that we should have "the guy with the screwdrivers" give him a call. I handed him back his card & said "I'm the guy with the screwdrivers & I prefer email".
I'm back to being a DBA. When I made the move to MySQL from Oracle the first thing I noticed was that I was one of a handful of women at the MySQL conference. There are more women there now, but still not as many as in Oracle. And, yea, MySQL suits me better than Oracle & I'm very passionate about it and the open source database world right now. It's a *very* exciting time to be working with open source databases. VERY!
Why aren't more women contributing to open source? There are a lot of women that just don't want to deal with the male b/s after work. We have to deal with it at work, why deal with it in our after hours?
the guy with the screwdrivers Posted Aug 28, 2009 17:04 UTC (Fri) by jadelennox (guest, #60499) [Link]
I remember so many comments like that back when I worked in systems. Once I was talking to a guy from a vendor who kept asking for my "network address". I asked him if he meant IP address or Mac address, and he said in his incredibly patronizing voice "Your *network address*. It looks like a number, followed by a dot, followed by a number, followed by a dot... look, can I talk to your technical guy?"
I hung up on him and called his manager. His manager spluttered and groveled a lot. It felt good.
But that was professional technology. I'm not saying there wasn't a lot of miserable sexism in professional tech, but at least they were always managers who would splutter and grovel, you know? In open source somebody makes comments about virgins (and *yes*, I wasn't there, but here's another woman who has seen record of what was said and is incredibly offended by it), and he keeps getting invited back to get more and more speeches with the same joke.
unicorn herd check-in Posted Aug 28, 2009 16:57 UTC (Fri) by jadelennox (guest, #60499) [Link]
Not a unicorn, Bruce.
I first installed Linux (Slackware) from 5.25" floppy disks sometime around 1993. I was a systems administrator, and contributed in a small way to a number of open-source projects, never for financial renumeration. Mostly Perl, very early on some C. I left the open source communities for a few years -- burned out by all the sexism, in fact -- and have recently returned because of the much more welcoming environment of the two new predominantly-female open-source projects.
Even when I was young and had much thicker skin I always avoided online open-source community interaction (e.g. mailing lists, IRC, web forums), precisely because I don't have the Sanity Watchers points for threads like this one.
I love contributing to open source projects. But I hate needing to prove myself as something more than a real developer's girlfriend, I hate hearing sexist jokes, I hate the idea that I'm only interested in user interface or documentation, I hate flirtation. So my passion for open source, true, was not as overwhelming as my unwillingness to deal with sexism on the Internet. Now that I have found a place where I can be passionate about open source without all of that garbage, I'm incredibly happy.
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