Strongly seconded, with one caveat: because autistic spectrum disorders are conditions of developmental delay, hackers with ASDs who haven't had a few decades to figure things out *are*, in a sense, blameless: they're working on it, give them time. But even they would not be assholes to women in particular, but rather to everyone, and generally not intentionally. (Or, rather, if they are being assholes to women in particular, rather than accidentally to everyone, that's because they're assholes, not because they have ASDs, as you said.)
People with ASDs are in any case rarely assholes: that trait is found in people on the top of the social pile, and when ASDers are found anywhere in the social pile at all it is generally at the bottom. When you have very few friends, you really don't act like an asshole anywhere, because it might lose you the few you've got.