It's 'spender', but seconded. If there's one thing a lifetime of
Asperger's has taught me, it's that social oil is completely *not*
pointless. Without it, it doesn't matter *how* bright you are: nobody will
pay any attention to you. More: if you've got it, many people (though not
Linus, thankfully) will pay attention to you *even if you're an idiot*.
So it behooves bright people (like spender) to *learn to be nice*. Then
people will listen to someone who's often right, and we're all better off.