...well now, I just don't know how much credence I can give to somone who uses emacs instead of vi or vim.... <big_grin>
Seriously, though, here's a strange update for kpilot/korganizer and KDE4.
After nudzhing every $#*&! setting I could twiddle, I discovered that I can sync my calendar and addresses if I *DON'T* sync notes and memos.
In kpilot, settings->configure kpilot->conduits. I unchecked everything except addressbook, calendar, and to-dos. I'll have to see what else I can find in the next few weeks.