The most important problem was omitted entirely - from article and you reasoning too
Posted Oct 4, 2007 6:27 UTC (Thu) by khim
In reply to: Yet another male perspective on women in free software
Parent article: Yet another male perspective on women in free software
People who have themselves been rejected by and excluded from wider society, in many cases, at a young age, would be more tolerant and welcoming of people.
The biggest question is: why should they ? They were ostracized and rejected for years - mostly because they lack the tact and ignore insignificant things like "manners". Finally, after many years, blood and tears they created place where they belong. Where they can be unapologetically "hostile to people who seem to be unwilling to think or to do their own homework before asking questions", where they can "tell exactly how you screwed up, possibly with colourful asides" and do it "in public". Now some newcomers want to destroy their "safe haven" and force them to welcome the very same "normal" people who have rejected them years ago and repeatedly reject them again and again. Why should they do this ? Why ? Who can guarantee that after more normal people will join geeks will not ostracized here, on their home turn and will not be expeled again ?
Not to mention absorbing bad cultural messages.
That's how the whole story of geekdom often starts, so it's not a coincidence...
Women are just more social and so more often then not are "normal" people, not "geeks". FOSS communities don't just reject women specifically - they reject all normal people who are insisting on using manners and tact in conversations. Note that most older geeks can and do wear masks of "politeness" and "good manners" - when they are forced too. But the idea that they'll be forced to wear the same mask on the home turf Outrageous.
As long as geeks perceive all these initiatives as yet-another-way-to-drive-them-from-home - we'll go nowhere. The people who drive women away are afraid, very afraid - they don't want to wear straitjacket and preventively fight against such horrible outcome. If we can not assuage their fears - it's all pointless.
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