Yet another male perspective on women in free software
Posted Oct 4, 2007 5:21 UTC (Thu) by paulmfoster
Parent article: Yet another male perspective on women in free software
Here are some simple rules:
1. Don't say anything in email you wouldn't say in person. If someone would punch you out in person for saying something, perhaps you shouldn't say it in email.
2. Your conversations on the internet are *not* private. Even private email conversations can become public. Consider that every word you utter on the internet can be read by the whole world.
3. People should *not* have to develop "thicker skins" around you.
4. If you originate the communication, then you're to a greater or lesser degree responsible for the reaction on the other end.
5. If you really want to fight, become a pugilist.
6. Know when to shut up. It's not your job to correct every stupid utterance on the internet, and you don't *have* to respond to them.
7. Some people specialize in provoking other people. Don't take their bait.
8. You're not in the locker room on the internet. You're in the town square with directional microphones pointed at you from every corner. (See #2 above.)
9. Where possible, ignore personal attacks on you. Consider that they say more about the attacker than they say about you. (Develop a "thicker skin". ;-})
10. Consider the difference between written and spoken communication. In writing, you can't see the person's face or posture, and you can't adequately judge their real reaction the way you could in person.
11. Women are potentially as capable as men in most areas. It really depends on whether they're *interested* in an area or not.
This business of driving off women before they can fully join our community (or after they've joined) is a matter of *manners*. And I suspect that if people simply followed the above rules, we wouldn't have this problem.
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